Some people mistake respect for fear. Of course, we do know that there’s a difference. The difference between these two is the fact that people actually like the people they respect. They respect the people they fear simply because they are afraid of the repercussions if they go against the desires of that person. Fear doesn’t create friendships, respect does.
Have you ever taken a moment to define what it is like to truly respect someone? Our heartaches and pains must have taught us something about respect. It is by committing mistakes that we learn how we should treat other people. If you ask me, I am completely sincere with the person I respect. I do everything just so that I don’t hurt them. In return, we have become good friends, one whose relationship is based on mutual trust and respect.
At the heart of the most successful relationships is respect. Whether the relationship is professional or personal, there’s a certain kind of admiration held for that person. If you want people to respect you, you also have to show that you deserve it. If you find yourself with a person who doesn’t treat you with any value, I assure that this is doomed for failure. If I were you, I’d get up and leave. If you stick around and be with this person, then you can end up hurting either one of you. The longer you postpone in ending this relationship, the more time you’ll waste. It is simply but a futile effort to try and salvage things if you know deep down that it isn’t going to change.
Moreover, other people’s beliefs may differ from yours, but what is most important is that you acknowledge your differences and move on. You were all raised in different environments, and have therefore different ways in coping with issues. Realize that each person is unique and that what is most important is the intention behind their actions. They act on things because of how they are and what their beliefs are, and it doesn’t always have to be about you all the time, so don’t take it personally if they go against your wishes. This is where communication plays a pivotal role. By talking things through, you will come to an agreement which will help you understand others better during the direst of situations. If understanding is impossible to do, then get out. Remember, it’s always your choice. No one can force anything on you if you don’t allow them to. The key ingredient to this healthy assertiveness is self love. Know your worth and treat people the way you’d want them to treat you. The golden rule comes into play here, and it is the most basic and most important of beliefs. Simply stated, to get respect, you have to give respect!
If you really thought things through, you’ll realize that respect is the dough that holds all the other ingredients of a healthy relationship together. Love, trust, and honesty simply aren’t enough. The most amazing thing about respect is that, when you do get to have it, then you’ll have a relationship at its deepest and truest form.
that trough if you respect people understand their feelings,they will do the same with you. vise versa.