The digital age has taught people to live in a hurry. You are probably in a constant rush trying to keep up with everyone’s hurried life. If so, this can be taking a toll on your patience. When you are always trying to get somewhere, or complete a to-do list, very rarely are you living in the present. In most cases this makes having patience difficult, because you are just trying to get done. Many people loose sight over the fact that as a parent or any kind of role model, utilizing patience can be a strong leadership tool.
You can start the road to greater patience by learning when to battle and when to let go. Do the little things really matter? Who cares which color shirt your child wears with those pants? Or, which color plate they eat from. When you are constantly stressing overt the small things, you may start to feel like a roasting pan of impatience!
Usually, most people have some sort of tolerance level. It then becomes figuring out how tolerant you really are, and working to increase these skills. In order to help increase your patience when dealing with your kids, understand which developmental stage they are in. Begin aware of the changes your child is going through can help you understand what is normal and what is abnormal behavior.
For example: your child has just learned to get to the top of the twin loft bed. This can be celebrated as an achievement. In the event the child uses this new skill for other purposes, such as throwing toys at a sibling, you can set the boundaries for what is acceptable and what isn’t.
Have you breathed lately? This may sound like a silly question because you may think to yourself that you breathe all the time. While it may be true that you are always breathing, how much of this breathing is intentional? When you take deep breaths, it will make you aware of how patient you really can be. Breathing deeply will put you in control of emotions, which will give you more control over them.
Try not to take your children’s outbursts personally. When your kids are gathered around the black dining room set for lunch and have an argument, this argument is not meant to intentionally annoy you. Kids are being kids, with no ulterior motive involved. Keep this in mind before you loose your patience.
Keep stressful situations in a long-term perspective. Are you getting upset and losing your patience over something you will not even remember once the day is over? When you put a situation in this context, you will probably realize how silly it is and it is not worth getting upset about in the first place.
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