When we take a look at public figures making speeches on stage or perhaps newscasters delivering the late night news, it all seems so easy but the simple truth is they do also perform feel anxious or nervous too, it’s just that we are not aware. So think of those people that only get to current a public presentation on one or two given occasions, and also the amount of fear that they have to feel. In actual fact, the worry is so considerable that a person can end up with severe tension, which stops them from delivering an excellent speech because they are surrounded by fear.

Most people will get anxious when they need to speak in public. It may be due to lack of contact with communicating or preparations or both. But then again, if you aren’t living in solitary, interacting with people is an day-to-day affair and it should never lead to too much concern. Because of this, a great way to get over the fear of public speaking is always to envision this task just like any ordinary interaction which you do every day. The only dissimilarity with public speaking is that you are contacting more people.

As said before, it is difficult to eradicate the anxiety to deal with lots of people. Certainly, the thought of humiliating yourself facing a lot of people is frightening. In reality, it is the content with the speech that people have an interest in primarily and how an individual deliver it is extra. On the other hand with more training and contact, a lot of people overcome public speaking fear sooner or later.

After you are aware of things that can enhance speaking in public performance, it is time you are taking action and start doing it. You’re never going to have great results should you sit there and envision the way it would happen.

I was always the type of person who would be constantly worrying about many different aspects of life and who was seemingly always quite stressed out. It could be about business; I am involved in advising people who are caught drink driving and I also offer professional security guards. I could not find a way to break through from this vicious cycle and at many a time I wondered whether it was worth living at all. I have to admit that on many occasions I have gone to bed hoping that I would die in my sleep and therefore would not wake up.

I am virtually sure that I am not the only one who lives life in this way. What I decided to do was to try to work out what exactly was causing my anxiety and stress.

It was about being very honest with myself. There have been many a night where I have been unable to get to sleep all night, basically I had too many worries circling through my mind. This meant that I could not relax and therefore could not sleep.

By thinking clearly, I realised that I had a fear of the future. I am someone who talks to myself quite a lot, a bit strange I know. I would often be asking myself a number of questions:

What will happen if I lose my job?

How will I cope if my girlfriend leaves me?

I have a wedding to attend next week, what if I make a fool of myself in front of my friends and family?

I am going on holiday in three months time, how will I cope if there are any problems with the plane etc?

How will I ever be able to save up enough money to put down as a deposit for a house?

How will I cope when my parents die?

These are just a few of many questions that I used to ask myself.

There was only one thing for it – I needed to talk through the problems and anxieties with my mother and father. They gave me some superb advice. These people said that stressing about a situation does not help one little bit – I needed to occupy my time more so that I would not have so much to stress. At the end of the day the only thing that each of us can do each and every day is to give our best – if I do this then I have nothing to fear or worry about. They told me to think in a more positive way and to concentrate on all of the good things that I had in my life. There will no doubt be challenges ahead but you need to deal with them when they arise.

I have taken on board there advice even though it has not been easy. My life is now so much better and when a fear comes into my head I just bat it away.

Have you ever taken a moment to define what it is like to truly respect someone? Our heartaches and pains must have taught us something about respect. It is by committing mistakes that we learn how we should treat other people. If you ask me, I am completely sincere with the person I respect. I do everything just so that I don’t hurt them. In return, we have become good friends, one whose relationship is based on mutual trust and respect.

At the heart of the most successful relationships is respect. Whether the relationship is professional or personal, there’s a certain kind of admiration held for that person. If you want people to respect you, you also have to show that you deserve it. If you find yourself with a person who doesn’t treat you with any value, I assure that this is doomed for failure. If I were you, I’d get up and leave. If you stick around and be with this person, then you can end up hurting either one of you. The longer you postpone in ending this relationship, the more time you’ll waste. It is simply but a futile effort to try and salvage things if you know deep down that it isn’t going to change.

Moreover, other people’s beliefs may differ from yours, but what is most important is that you acknowledge your differences and move on. You were all raised in different environments, and have therefore different ways in coping with issues. Realize that each person is unique and that what is most important is the intention behind their actions. They act on things because of how they are and what their beliefs are, and it doesn’t always have to be about you all the time, so don’t take it personally if they go against your wishes. This is where communication plays a pivotal role. By talking things through, you will come to an agreement which will help you understand others better during the direst of situations. If understanding is impossible to do, then get out. Remember, it’s always your choice. No one can force anything on you if you don’t allow them to. The key ingredient to this healthy assertiveness is self love. Know your worth and treat people the way you’d want them to treat you. The golden rule comes into play here, and it is the most basic and most important of beliefs. Simply stated, to get respect, you have to give respect!

If you really thought things through, you’ll realize that respect is the dough that holds all the other ingredients of a healthy relationship together. Love, trust, and honesty simply aren’t enough. The most amazing thing about respect is that, when you do get to have it, then you’ll have a relationship at its deepest and truest form.

The opportunity to be courageous is inside us all and we are given many opportunities where we can practice this. We sometimes do everything to avoid these uncomfortable situations. As we face the Goliath of our inner David, we get scared of the unknown and of the possibility that we will lose. We can’t help but flinch and run away.
That is why, in times like these we need to know that there are things around us that can help us. We have to know that we all have the innate ability to summon all our strength and stand our ground.

Here are just a few tips that may help us along the way:

1. We have to know what we have. Fear can rule us and paralyze us if we let it. Then, instead of facing something manageable, we face a puffed up illusion of the fear. We have to realize that we always have someone to lean on. Pray and ask the people in our lives to help us through the ordeal, no matter how small or big it is. Our insecurities may be huge in our minds that this can seem insurmountable, but the only way we can overcome them is to face them and push ourselves towards them. We have people we can count on. This is not to say that we forgo all our responsibilities and let them handle all of it. We have to know that we still must go through it, but a hand to hold makes a world of difference.

2. We need to learn to discover what’s beyond our comfort zone. When we have to confront something, it takes an element of risk into the unknown. If there are risks involved, it does mean we have to let go of it simply because we do not know what to do. The more we confront the fear, the easier it becomes in our lives. The risk of threat is always around. If we always give up, we will digress and destroy our lives. What will make us stronger is our ability to always get up every time we fall.

3. We need to face life with optimism. We have to know that there are just things that are beyond our control. Accept these things and change the way we respond to the situation. Instead of it bringing us down, we must find ways to make it work to our advantage. This takes practice, but once we are able to alter our attitude, we will see that life does not throw us problems that we can’t handle.

Courage and resilience go hand in hand because it brings healthy growth. Nature has gifted us with the ability to adapt. It is now up to us to discover how to use it.